Sometimes Life Just Gets in the Way


Hello?  Testing, testing, 1, 2, 3.

Hi guys,

So yeah, I haven’t been around for a while.  All is well, I just kinda got busy with life!  That and I had some incredible brain fog for a while there due to some Anemia due to Iron deficiency.

So life.  Although by some people’s standards my life is probably a bit boring but in my books it has been fun-filled recently.

I’ve been reading a ton.

Knitting a ton….one set of mitts is done and another green set for a certain blogger *cough Chrissy*  is in process.

I’ve been to movies….OMG guys Gone Girl is amazing!

I’ve been to Birthday Parties…..because you know it’s a party when we break into Show Tunes after a bottle of wine.   And seriously, where has Taylor the Latte Boy been my entire life?

I went to an all night arts festival

I’ve been dominating Pub Trivia with my friends….we totally won again last night.

There’s also been general pub hanging out with friends as well…..including meeting a random dude who was having a Bromance with the drummer of the band and asked me “Isn’t it awesome that at almost 2am we can hear the sound of the ocean?”  I don’t even know if that’s a line or if he was just really drunk…ok I know he was really drunk.  But seriously?

Oh yeah, we also had out little Canadian Thanksgiving which was a fun-filled weekend of Turkey and Pumpkin Pie…..mmmm Pumpkin Pie.   Why do we celebrate it in October?  They say it’s because we’re farther north so harvest happens earlier….blah blah blah.  I say it’s because we just like to distance ourselves from the Americans and their celebration of, ya know….slaughtering the natives.

Then there’s the usual work, cleaning, shopping, going to the gym and attempting to sleep while Jasper goes psycho kitty at 3am.  Ya know, the usual stuff.  Life.

So how is everyone doing?





A Note on Sleep and Getting Older

aka. why I totally can’t go out late on a Monday and drink.

On the last Monday of every month, my IRL (in real life) Book Club meets for dinner, drinks and chit chat. It’s always nice to catch up with the group and I’m friends with a few of the girls outside of the Club as well.

This past Monday I made the awesome (debatable) decision to join some of the girls at the Pub afterwards for Trivia Night.

As many of you know.  I’m a sucker for Trivia.   What can I say?  I’m a nerd.

Remember in July when I went on that Work Retreat and my team totally won the Trivia Night?

Well guess what?  The girls and I kicked Trivia ASS and won!!!

Some of these girls have been going to Trivia Night every Monday for over a year.  And they’ve won ONCE.  Ashley’s first night?  BOOM!  Victory!!!

You know what that means?  I am Trivia Goddess and if you want me on your team, I accept offerings of coffee and chocolate.

OK onto the sleep and getting older portion of this post…..

I’m an insomniac.  I have periods where I can’t sleep.  And it’s horrible.  So when I am having a stretch of good sleep, all it does is remind me how critical it is for me to get at least 5 hours MINIMUM.  6 is good.  7 is great.  8 is a pipe dream.  9 is like a frickin’ sleep Unicorn.

I typically don’t pull late social nights during the week.  I get up early, I work crazy days.  I’m not one to party till all hours of the night on a Thursday.  Which is what made Tuesday morning so painful.

First off.  Trivia didn’t wrap up till just after 11:30pm.

I nursed a Guinness all evening because I was already tired and had been up since 5:30 that morning.

And then we won.  When you win Pub Trivia do you know what you get?  A gift certificate and a pitcher of beer.  And there was no way I was getting out of not drinking our celebratory beer because let’s face it,  I’m totally the reason we won.  The host came over to chat, we drank (pretty quickly) and I was ready to leave.  It was after Midnight at that point and it was still going to take me half an hour to get home.

Fast forward and it’s 1:20am, I’m home, I’m getting ready for bed, I’ve had my traditional Ibuprofen and Water so I don’t feel like death in the morning and am just settling in when BOOM…..crazy kitty Jasper decides to punish me for being gone all day and night by running around like a lunatic, knocking things over and singing the song of his people.  Till 2am.

Sufice to say, when my alarm went off at 5:30 there wasn’t enough water or ibuprofen in the world to make me feel like a human being.  Yes, I only had 2 beers but after a roughly 19 hour day and 3.5 hours of sleep.  I don’t care how high your tolerance is.   You’re gonna feel like shit.  And shit was how I felt.

The tl;dr version?

I’m getting old.  I can’t pull all nighters and drink anymore.  My cat is evil.  And I kick ass at trivia.

Ever have that moment where you are practically slapped in the face by the fact that you’re getting older?



50 Thing You Don’t Need To Know About Me….

So on Saturday, the lovely Lillian Connelly over at It’s A Dome Life called me out to answer some questions. After which we bonded over Donkey Kong. Don’t ask. We’re weird. But anywhoo. Take a look at her answers and make a point of checking out her epic art while you’re there.

1. What are you wearing? Dude…what is this Penthouse Forum? Mind out of the gutter. I’m wearing a black strapless sundress and fuzzy purple slippers.

2. Ever been in love? Yup! I came close to marrying someone which if you know me now, is kinda hilarious.


3. Ever have a terrible break-up? More than one but one was worse than the other…..that being the guy I almost married. Any time you’re with a person that long and it gets that serious, the break-up can never be pretty.

4. How tall are you? I think the correct question is, how short am I….and that would be 5′ 4″

5. How much do you weigh? Yeah, not answering that. Who asks that?

6. Any tattoos? More than 5, less than 10 and less now that I will have by the time I’m done.

7. Any piercings? Less than I used to have. 3 in one ear and 2 in the other as well as my tongue.

8. OTP (One true pair, favorite fictional couple?) The only answer to this is Jamie and Claire in Outlander.

9. Favorite Show? Right now it’s a toss up between Game of Thrones and American Horror Story oh and Adventure Time….shut it, Lumpy Space Princess is spirit animal.

10. Favorite Bands? I’m a rock chick at heart so I’m gonna say Nine Inch Nails, Led Zeppelin, Linkin Park and many others.

11. Something you miss? Cellphones before Siri, TV before The Bachelor and music before Taylor Swift. Bottom line, I miss simpler times.

12. Favorite Song? I don’t have one actually. I love too many to narrow it down and for me, music is memories. Certain songs remind me of certain people and certain times in my life.

13. How old are you? 29 Forever!!! Ok, I’m 30. Shut it.

14. Zodiac sign? Capricorn

15. Quality to look for in a partner? Passion…not that kind you perv. I want someone who’s passionate about something. Their job, a hobby, a cause, their friends, their family. I don’t care what it is. But be passionate about something.

16. Favorite Quote? “I used to care what people thought about me, until one day I tried to pay my bills with their opinions” – Steve Maraboli

17. Favorite Actor? Ok, there’s favorite actors….and actors who I secretly imagine having babies with. The answer to both those questions is Michael Fassbender and Timothy Olyphant and Tom Hiddleston in no particular order.

Could he get sexier? Like seriously.

18. Favorite Color? Purple

19. Loud music or soft? Loud. Rock chick, remember? I do yoga to Rage Against the Machine if that’s any indication.

20. Where do you go when you are sad? When I’m sad I hide in my apartment.

21. How long does it take you to shower? 10 minutes? This totally depends on deep conditioning my hair, exfoliating and any hair removal that must be done.

22. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? Depending on if I washed my hair and have to dry it, or if I just need to slap some mascara on. 30-40 minutes for the former (again, I have a lot of hair) and 10 minutes for the latter.

23. Ever been in a physical fight? Nope but I have hit someone.

24. Turn on? Good Grammar and a sexy accent go a long way.

25. Turn-off? Being arrogant or a snob. Basically if you’re full of yourself I think you’re the biggest asshole on the planet.

26. The reason I started blogging? I wanted to practice my writing in a forum where people would actually read it. Presuming people are actually reading this…..


27. Fears? Heights and spiders.

28. Last thing that made you cry? Watching this YouTube video about this poor abandoned dog that’s family moved away and just left him. Some charity picked him up and was able to help him but seeing how scared, and dirty and hungry he was just broke my heart. I’m a total sap when it comes to animals.

29. Last time you said you loved someone? Just got off the phone with my Aunt, it was her Birthday and she just got back from a trip to Europe.

30. Meaning behind the name of your blog (That Ash Girl)? That Ash girl is just who I am, and honestly I’m kinda snarky and not always laughing with you so it’s pretty self explanatory.

31. Last book you read? I just finished Heir of Fire….it’s like the Game of Thrones of Teen Fiction. There’s fairies, there’s dragons, there’s snarky assassins.

32. Book you are currently reading? Currently reading Wolf Hall because it fulfills my history nerd inclinations.

33. Last show you watched? I’m binge watching the first 2 seasons of The Mindy Project on Netflix. And when I mean binge watched I mean Netflix has prompted me twice asking if I was still watching.

34. Last person you talked to? My Aunt as mentioned above it was her birthday and she just got back from Europe.

35. The relationship between you and the person you just texted? Last person I texted was my friend Katie. I met her through the in real life book club I belong to.

36. Favorite food? Tea, wine, whisky….ok those are all beverages. Cheese and chocolate covered almonds. Not at the same time though.

7. Place you want to visit? Paris is next on my travel bucket list.

38. Last place you were? Are we talking physical place or like last place I travelled to. This is vague. I was previously in the kitchen?

39. Do you have a crush? Do 30 year olds have crushes? Yes, yes they do and because it’s a fictional character I’m totally not admitting to it. Ok it’s Jamie. He’s been my book boyfriend for like 10 years and counting.

40. Last time you kissed someone? My neighbors Rottweiler just love mauled me in the elevator. Does that count?

41. Last time you were insulted? I don’t actually remember. I’m guess that’s a good thing?

42. Favorite flavor of sweet? Grape. Strange I know but I like things that taste purple.

43. What instruments do you play? I play the piano and can strum a basic cord on a guitar. I do a mean Guitar Hero solo but most people don’t actually accept that as a proper instrument.

Ohhh shiny.

44. Favorite piece of jewelry? My silver Return to Tiffany bracelet.

45. Last sport you played? Does beer pong count? Kidding it was baseball.

46. Last song you sang? Enjoy the Silence. Yes I totally rocked out to Depeche Mode while doing laundry.

47. Favorite chat up line? Do you have a Band-aid? Because I just scraped my knee falling for you. Seriously. How awesome is that line?

48. Have you ever used it? Nope. I’ve never actually hit on a guy before. This could be why I’m single but it’s true.

49. Last time you hung out with anyone? Had brunch with some friends earlier and am currently hanging out with my furbaby Jasper.

50. Who should answer these questions next?
My sister’s from other mister’s Katie @wordsforworms and Chrissy @quirkychrissy as well as newly returned blogger Annie Jay @TheGrowUpPlan because they’re cool chicks.



fluffy thing friday

Fluffy Thing Friday – Cutest Furry Babies EVER

Who doesn’t love a fluffy animal baby?  Right?

Ok, I’m sure there are some out there but then they have no souls, so if anything we should pity them.

I’m not kidding.  I get that not everyone likes cats, or birds or certain animals.  But if you don’t like animals in general?  I think there is something wrong with you.

Rant done….onto the cuteness.

Here are some of the cutest things… the world.

Sleepy Puppy


Itty Bitty Rhino!


Human in a Panda costume, carrying a baby Panda.  Can I be that human?




Squee over Seal Pups.


Itty Bitty fluffy Owl with big demonic eyes?  Steal my soul….I don’t care.


And finally… Meerkats.  I don’t even LIKE Meerkats but these little dudes are ADORABLE!





Because all the cool kids like it….

I’ve never been one of those people that jumps on a bandwagon because all the cool kids are doing something.  I’m not a hipster by any means, like I don’t purposely AVOID cool things just out of spite.  I just tend to not buy into hype all that often.
More often than not, I try something ( a TV show,  a book/author, a restaurant, a movie, a band) because I hear a lot of good reviews.  I mean we all want to try cool things right?  And I’m totally down with things that come recommended to me.  But do you ever just feel like you’re missing something? Like somehow you’re missing the cool kid gene?

There are numerous occasions where I watch something that’s hugely popular and just think to myself, am I the only one who doesn’t get why this is popular?

Case in point.  Sons of Anarchy.  I have tried on numerous occasions to get into this show.  I think Katey Sagal is fantastic and badass but honestly?  I could care less about a biker gang.  I don’t care about their internal politics and I don’t care that they’re fighting with the Mexicans for territory or working with dirty cops or that they’re all gruff and grungy but have a heart of gold.  I don’t GET IT!  The first time I watched the show, I caught a random episode.  Didn’t like it.  Then months later I forced myself to watch the entire first season on Netflix.  Still didn’t like it.  Didn’t hate it, but don’t see what all the hype is about.  Charlie Hunnam? Not that hot.  The whole bearded blonde dude white gangster thing doesn’t work for me (sorry all you bearded blonde dudes out there who may or may not be reading this blog).  I’ve TRIED to like it.  And now that the new seasons are starting all I’m hearing about is OMG this and OMG that about Sons of Anarchy.  Do I need to try it again?  I don’t know.

I get that everyone has different tastes.  No everyone liked Breaking Bad.   It wasn’t everyone’s cup of tea.  Not everyone likes Game of Thrones, or Mad Men, or True Detective.  And I’m sure that the people who aren’t fans of those shows feel the exact same way that I feel about Sons of Anarchy.  I want to like it.   Or better yet, I think I should like it…..I just don’t.

Let’s chat kiddies…..what’s that one thing the “cool kids” like that you just don’t understand the appeal of?