Everyone loves getting gifts right?
I mean who wouldn’t?
But there is a different level of joy that you can associate with GIVING gifts.
Before I get too far I want to recount a story from back in the day when I was still in University and with my Ex-jerk of a boyfriend.
We had been dating for a year and I was working at Chapters (a bookstore for my American readers) and it was the night of our 1 year anniversary. It was November and we were in the middle of a horrible snow storm. Near the end of my shift, I got a phone call. It was a florist calling to tell me he had a delivery for me but that he wouldn’t make it by the end of my shift at 7pm because the roads were horrible. He was asking if I could wait. I said yes of course and in my excitement called my boyfriend because I knew it was him sending me flowers on our Anniversary. I was 19 at the time and this would be the first time anyone had ever sent me flowers.
Calling turned out to be a big mistake. My Ex was so angry that the driver had spoiled his surprise that he called the florist and angrily cancelled the order. He wanted it to be a big production of surprising me while I was at work, and now that the surprise was ruined it was no longer worth it.
I was heartbroken. I mean I was 19. I wanted pretty flowers. I didn’t care that it wasn’t a surprise anymore. But to my Ex, the act of sending me flowers didn’t have anything to do with me, or doing something nice for me. It was all about the production and showmanship of it. I guess he wanted to appear like a great boyfriend who made public displays for his girlfriend.
I just wanted my flowers. I found out later they were two dozen pink roses. I also found out that they gave him a serious credit on his next purchase. We were together for almost 4 years beyond that and I never did get my flowers.
Now back to gift giving. For me, giving gifts is all about making the recipient happy. It’s not about how much money you spend, or the production of it all. It’s about knowing that the person you gave the gift to, felt loved, happy, appreciated and so on. It’s about making a person feel special on their birthday, or about cheering them up when you know they’ve had a tough week. Sometimes all it takes is a card. Sometimes it’s a silly gift. Other times it’s something you know they want but can’t afford to buy for themselves. Regardless of what the gift is, it should be about THEM. Not you. As the giver, your joy could come out of making someone you love smile.
Think back. What was the best gift you ever got and why was it so special?